Alright i wanted to visit my fiance who is not from the us, but my mom says no because she does not trust him.But he and i are engaged and he would make sure nothing bad happens to me and that i return home safely.And he would be with me everywhere i go.What can i do to beable to go and see him for one week?
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April 12th, 2010 at 3:14 pm
Um…..how old are you? If your mother can bar you from leaving the country you’re probably under 18. And you met him where? Online? And you’re marrying him why? So he can become a citizen?
Get over it.
April 12th, 2010 at 3:54 pm
cuz Oman is all MAN. so wen u get to Oman, who gonna b like Oh man! BIG WIENER!
April 12th, 2010 at 4:05 pm
Unless you are of Arabic descent and live in a traditional Arabic home, marrying a man from Oman is a big mistake. The cultures of the US and Oman are too different for a happy marriage. You would not be happy living in Oman. It is possible that he does not want to stay married to you, but only wants to marry so that he can come to America. In many Muslim countries men are allowed to have 4 wives.
Men from Arabian countries have not learned to treat women well. Women have few rights in Arabian countries. In some Arabian countries an unmarried man and woman cannot be together in private. If they are caught together by the police, they can be arrested and sent to prison where they can be whipped.
In some Arabian countries, a woman cannot go out in public with a man unless he is already her husband or is a blood relative.
If you need your mother’s permission, you are too young to marry anyone. You may think this man is glamourous, but how will you feel about him in 5 years? What if you and he have children and he leaves you and takes your children to Oman. Will you ever get them back? Or will you never see your children again?
Listen to your mother. She’s older and wiser. You could ruin your life by marrying this man.
April 12th, 2010 at 4:25 pm
Listen, I don’t normally put a disclaimer before an answer- but I did try to respond to your actual question. at the end. please, dont’ be offended- I really do understand- (this is off of the assumption you met him online, if this isn’t the case than just skip to the end and forgive my preaching ;] )
As mentioned, if your mother can bar you from leaving, you probably shouldn’t go- and should let this guy go. Older men (and this even means a 26 year old) that talks to an underaged girl are bad news. Of course, this isn’t always the case, but you should already beware.
All of that said, from here on out- did you meet him online?
Sweetie, I can’t judge, nor will I. I understand more than I care to explain how much you want to trust and love a man who is 109302932 miles away- but you can’t go into it blinded by love. It’s a little bit of a red flag to have a man engaged to a woman- particuarly an american- whom he’s met online. Simple. I’m not saying it’s always the case, but you need to be careful! Before and if you make ANY plans to visit him, do some research- google him, google his family; msn, anything- you’ll see if he’s talking to someone else. Research his culture, his town… do your best to learn his language. KNOWLEDGE is truly power and if he’s into you for anything less than honerable- he’ll turn tail. Above all, research some of the ”red flags-” , and other women’s experiances with this situation- and be honest with yourself. Mom’s are sometimes spot on with instinct. Talk to her and find out why she doesn’t trust him. maybe it’s deeper than ”you met him on the net and you don’t know what he really is-”
if she says it- remeber- she’s right. you don’t know who he really is- but you can start to learn a whole lot and decide from there.
Should you still desire a visit, wait till your mother can’t stop you-
save your money and go for longer than a week- and be safe.
April 12th, 2010 at 4:32 pm
Why don’t you have him come visit you in the US instead so your mom can meet him and see what he is really like
Just look on the immigration board at the number of women and men who met someone online, got married, and that person just used them for a greencard, then left them often with huge debts. Or another woman who married an Algerian man who took their 2 kids back to Algeria with him and she can’t do anything to get them back because in many Arabic cultures, the father gets custody of the children. I’m not saying he is definitely like that, but if you are engaged without ever meeting this guy in person, it’s not legit. How many guys do you know that would marry a woman they never met before?
I assume you must be VERY young if your other question showed you didn’t even know which finger a wedding ring is worn on. And how old is he?
April 12th, 2010 at 4:59 pm
It’s really normal that she disagrees.
Mostly men are after the citizenship and not after the woman herself.
Be careful.
Plus, the omani society is really conservative and you might not be very welcomed and comfortable during your stay.
April 12th, 2010 at 5:25 pm
Trust ur mum’s instinct. Why don’t you meet halfway? Like in Egypt or sth…?
April 12th, 2010 at 6:00 pm
It’s not wrong to visit him, Its totally okay. Wether ur mom trusts him or not is out of anybody’s reach, but if ur talking about the law and stuff.. its totally okay.